Why being nice is anything but nice.

When dating or in a relationship I think of “nice” as a four letter word. I strive to be kind. Compassionate. Accepting. Loving. Altruistic. But never nice.

Why? Because to me nice guys are not nice out of sincerity. Being “nice” is about quid pro quo. “If I am nice to her she will be give me sex” or “she will cook for me” or whatever.