Why being nice is anything but nice.

Larry Schoeneman
2 min readDec 30, 2019

When dating or in a relationship I think of “nice” as a four letter word. I strive to be kind. Compassionate. Accepting. Loving. Altruistic. But never nice.

Why? Because to me nice guys are not nice out of sincerity. Being “nice” is about quid pro quo. “If I am nice to her she will be give me sex” or “she will cook for me” or whatever.

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Larry Schoeneman

Software developer, technical leader, agile evangelist and all around technical pain in the ass.